They say, full stop is not the real end. Very true as far as human emotions are concerned.But at the same time we have a priori intimations coming our way. The more we try to avoid, the more they follow us. To Emote is the strongest tool a human possesses. Imagine a day when u’ll be devoid of ur emotions. A paragon of inferno!! Don’t believe it? Give it a try and the realization will make u ponder why man is at the apex?!?! Talking about emotion, it again is a Pandora’s box – full of surprises. What comes after, is hard to tell. Happiness, sadness, excitement, candor, vilification etc, etc…….the list goes on. Every time a new popping!!
A very crass but true muttering is – “WHY ME?? “ which is the outcome of setbacks: back-to-back. When we talk about the alpha and omega of the journey called life, both the ends are uncontrollable and unconquerable. The remaining(the middle one) phase is under our supervision.
It’s not so important to add years to your life as it’s to add life to your years. Difficulties are bound to come (in the form of situations, people who try to demoralize …..), but how one faces it, is imperative. It is not at all true that all the hell’s fury was bestowed upon one. It was just the testing time to make the tree stronger when heavy wind blew, to make it firmly rooted at the time of crises. Just lamenting over the issue that the day/month/year was an awry, is not a good sign (though we r helpless at times….:-(). Agreed that things do go wrong, but still, for some good! I remember the Murphy’s law which says that “Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.” No matter who u r and what u do.
Another facet is the Mea Culpa where acknowledgement gets eulogized. Believe me, it needs a brave heart! The problem is not that there is a problem. The problem is thinking that having a problem is a problem. Keeping this attitude really helps combating failures. But while doing so, one thought which keeps hammering is “why was this supposed to happen to me?” And at this juncture we r forlorn n avoid interactions. The other side of the coin speaks differently. I’ve never heard a Nobel Prize winner asking – “why me?”, or for that matter, any individual receiving prestigious positions, handlings, responsibilities, etc. That is probably because “self” gets enveloped by the merriment around. A paradigm which explains the ecstasy of life follows:
Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983.
From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed : “why does God have to select u for such a bad disease?”
To this Arthur Ashe replied:
The world over-
50 million children start playing tennis,
5 million learn to play tennis,
5 hundred thousand learn professional tennis,
50,000 come to the circuit,
5000 reach the Grand Slam,
50 reach Wimbledon,
4 to semi final,
2 to the finals,
When I was holding a cup – I never asked God “why me?” and today in pain I should not be asking God “why me?”
The worth of living explained within the small window said a lot!! Frustration, anger are things which harm us without our permission. If it’s gonna happen, it will. Everything’s decided. We r just puppets(emotional, of course).Now that doesn’t mean we start taking things lightly. Matured thinking is needed. So rather than wasting the much stored energy in mourning, it’s always better to be cheerful and accept the truth coz :
Everything that happens, happens for good!!
